However, there are many variables in the egg donation, fertilization and embryo implantation processes over which the prospective parents have no control. Our ideal was to have twin boys, with each of us fathering one boy. Like many gay men, one of the primary reasons we chose to create a family via gestational surrogacy was because we wanted, if possible, to have our own biological children. As my husband Tommy put it, “As gay men, when we came out, neither Rich nor I thought becoming a parent was possible.” It was a huge leap from not thinking it possible to create a family to becoming parents of our own two little boys. For same-sex couples, there are even more complicating legal and social factors, potential obstacles and interpersonal relationships to consider.
The decision to create a family using assisted reproductive technology is a huge and somewhat daunting step for most couples.
